Ask Self Serve – I might be bi curious
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Question: I am bi curious and looking for information and sex tips.
Answer: Congrats on getting to know your sexual orientation and looking for info on how to give and receive more pleasure in your relationships! June is Pride month, so there will be lots of events where you can interact with your LGBTQ community. Come by Self Serve on June 29th to watch the Pride Parade. We’ll have refreshments, a DJ and great Pride gear.
Even in gay and lesbian communities biphobia can be common. Many people think bisexuality doesn’t exist and that all people who identify as bisexual are just gay or lesbian, but haven’t fully come out yet. In our opinion, if you identify as bisexual, you are bisexual. You are the only person who gets to decide your sexual orientation and your identity, no matter how fluid your sexuality is over your lifetime.
Being bi has lots of room for exploration around pleasure, because you can play with all the parts and lots of people. We offer classes that explore sex tips for specific body parts and sex tips regardless of anatomy. Our most popular class is Interactive BJ Skills (interactive on a dildo, not a person). We offer that class online and in our store in a group setting. We also have an Interactive Cunnilingus class where participants practice their oral skills on a piece of fruit. Our classes aren’t restricted by sexual orientation because all kinds of people enjoy all kinds of sexual activities.
If you’re into books, we have a great book called Best Bisexual Women’s Erotica edited by Cara Bruce. Even if you don’t identify as a woman this book is hot and sexy for everybody. We also have great educational DVDs, including topics on orgasm, strap on sex, massage and more. Many movies are a bisexual dream, because they feature sex scenes of various combinations. We also carry Men Redefining Sexuality and Women Redefining Sexuality that feature sex scenes and interviews with the actors who enjoy blending the lines that are often strictly drawn around sexuality and identity.
We like what David Bowie has to say about his sexuality. “It’s true – I am a bisexual. But I can’t deny that I’ve used that fact very well. I suppose it's the best thing that ever happened to me. Fun, too.”
~ David Bowie.
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Questions are answered by Self Serve Staff and edited by Hunter Riley.
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Hello!
Thank you for your comment. One thing you might consider is trying some of the datings apps that exist such as Grindr. It's an app specifically for gay & bi men.
You might also consider checking out if you have any LGBT bars or meetup.com groups in your area.
If you have other questions please let us know.
Best
Hunter @ Self Serve
I am a 48 year man and have only been intimate with women except for a few times in my teens. I now fantasize about being with men sexually more than women. Want to be able to experience
bisexuality but don't know how to begin. I'm attracted to men 40 to 60 and athletic. Don't know where or how to begin experimenting?
Any suggestions